Sunday, August 8, 2010

Goodbye, Norma Jean

Sounds like a song, doesn't it? It is, but is also what I had to say earlier this week when my sister (in-law) ended her battle with ovarian cancer. She was in her second phase of chemo and had just received the last dose. It was that last dose that killed her, not the disease.

Norma was a tiny little thing for most of her life, interested in health and wellness. She spent most of her years as a vegetarian, and for two years, I followed her lead and then decided that I liked meat, so abandoned that lifestyle. In retrospect, maybe it wasn't a bad idea to go back to meat. Norma's body developed some allergic reactions to the foods she was accustomed to eating and had to take meat into her nutrition plan later in life. I'm not sure, but my uneducated mind says that a change of that kind is harsh on the body. Who knows what happened. All I know is that her body started to reject her usual lifestyle and she had to eat meat. Then all of a sudden, she had an "unwelcome visitor" (her words) that led to an emergency room visit and removal of 8 liters of fluid from a tumor that was pissed. Chemo to shrink the tumor followed, and then surgery for removal of it. The doctor said he couldn't get all of it and additional chemo should take care of it. Boy, did it. It killed her.

Goodbye, Norma Jean. I wish we had longer together. I wish we had taken that fishing trip that you and Bob didn't want to go on. LOL! I wish we had done more things together. We were so different, you and I. You were the country girl who went to the city. I was the city girl who loved to get her hands dirty in the country. But somehow we got along. There was a period of time when we didn't speak, but we came back together in the final years of your life. I am grateful for that. I don't know how I'm gonna do the next 30 years without you... I haven't spend ONE hour since your passing when I haven't thought of something I wanted to share with you. Sometimes sisters-in-law are closer than sisters. We were. And I will always be thankful for it.

Yes, I will take care of Michele for you. That's a given. She can come to me for anything and I will be there. The same for Darrell. I think they need us now more than ever. We're here. We're family.

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